An Open, Honest Letter From Sara; You Don’t NEED Another Course

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“Knowing others is intelligence; knowing yourself is true wisdom. Mastering others is strength; mastering yourself is true power.”  ― Lao Tzu

Dearest Mindful Movement Community,

As I am in the midst of enrollment for our group coaching course, I am busy with all the life things–work, family, self-care, an intensive training program, AND the to-do list of opening enrollments for this course.  If you have ever followed the content a creator puts out in the weeks leading up to the start of a course, you will notice it is a lot of content.

I am not looking for your sympathy here, simply painting a picture of the doubling up of workload.  Keep in mind, I don’t have a huge team of people working here at the Mindful Movement.  I am sure you can relate to feeling the heavy pressures of responsibility building up at times.

So, as I am deep into the enrollment process, I read a reply to a post from our community.

    “Do I really need another course? Or do I need something else?”

My first reaction was of failure, that I have let the community down, and that I am being selfish by selling my course.  I had a sinking heaviness in the pit of my stomach.  I think, “Why am I even offering this?  This person is right, you don’t need another course.”

I had to remind myself: I absolutely love what I do.  I am passionate about helping people and I have a mission to help as many people as I can (of those who want my help.)

I understand there is so much information available to all of us, it can become overloaded, even making the decision itself another stressor to get piled on to an already stressful and overwhelming life.  This is especially true the past few years!  The human population has endured a collective trauma and we may not even be aware of the long lasting impact.

Connect with the Body to Understand the Mind

After I had this initial gut reaction, I sat with my response.  Anytime I experience a strong emotion in response to a situation, I want to peel back the layers and understand what is behind this response.  I must ask myself, why am I feeling guilt and shame around this *perceived* failure, this situation where I feel like I have let down the community? What has truly triggered this feeling of not good enough (that I am so familiar with?)

To be completely honest and open with you, this is a repeating pattern in my life, as I am sure it is with so many others. I have done so much work with this, and while it has gotten much better, it still pops up here and there. Who else has felt like a failure and wanted to give up at the first sign of challenge or resistance?

The Importance of Asking Why

As I peeled back the layers of my reaction, I dug a little deeper into my motivation for the creation of this program and that is what I want to share with you.

Many years ago, I was in the situation where I knew I needed more in my life.  I knew I needed to make a change to move forward.  Yet, I was unclear about what would best serve me.

When there are so many choices, so many different routes to take, it can become paralysis by analysis and then no decision is made at all.  The familiar discomfort of the current state wins out over the uncomfortable state of trying something new.  So, how do you choose?

For me, not knowing what I truly needed was at the root of being stuck.  Not taking the time to pause for self-inquiry kept me from knowing myself and my needs deeply.  I only knew myself on the surface level.  Therefore, how could I make decisions that would best serve me?

And to go another level deeper, lack of true self-worth was holding me back from taking the time to really get to know myself.  I had long ago developed the protection strategy of placing everyone else’s needs above my own.

Once I started practicing meditation and introspection, I understood myself more clearly and could more easily make these difficult decisions with confidence.

This journey I am sharing is the foundation of this group coaching program.  Because I choose to make the commitment to my own self-care, I was able to recognize my needs and values.  This gave me the freedom and ease to make confident decisions.

So, NO, you do not NEED another course

No, you do not need another course that is another person’s solution to your struggles.  You may be confused by my answer as I am a course creator, but hear me out.

You can dance your journey any way you want.  AND to do so with joy and fulfillment, it is important to connect with what your deep needs are.

Obviously, I believe a course, or a guided program designed by someone you trust, who teaches a solution that resonates with you, CAN absolutely help you turn a corner.  It can be the catalyst for the change you desire.  This is not to say our program is the only way, or the right one for you.  This is true only if this program is something you believe in and you are ready to put in the work.

If you participate in our program, like all the other options out there, you will get out of it what you put into it.  I will not tell you it is a magic pill that will make all your troubles disappear or all your pain and suffering go away forever, because that is not true.

What I can tell you about our program is that it is designed for the variability of all learners.  Because as a teacher, one thing I can always count on is that the way students learn is variable.  This was true when I taught kindergarten, and it is still true whether I am teaching movement, meditation, or making life changes.

So, I will meet you where you are at the start of your journey.  I will help you understand what direction you want to take.  And with my support, your curiosity about yourself (and commitment), and the community of like-minded peers, you will map out your journey, decide what to leave behind, and you will move forward.

The path of change is not always linear, and the key ingredients include patience, love, compassion, and kindness.  If you follow a recipe to make a meal, it will turn out just like every other chef who follows the same recipe with the same ingredients.  This would be great if everyone like the same food.  If you pause, check in with what you like and dislike, and adjust the ingredients to meet your needs, you will end up with a meal YOU are completely satisfied with.

Personally, I find that when I learn a system or method, in depth and in an organized, structured way, good things come out of it.  I must stay focused on the one thing during this learning period, and I must not get distracted.  Have you ever heard this about FOCUS:

  • Follow
  • One
  • Course
  • Until
  • Success

So, once you make the choice to follow a book, a program, or work with a coach, put your blinders on.  Stick with what you choose and don’t buy another personal development book or course!

This program can be your catalyst for transformation

To circle back to my mission to help, this program is for me as much as it is for you.  This is a way for me to connect more deeply with and help more people, especially those who already resonate with my message and my teachings. (You are reading this post aren’t you?)  When I have the opportunity to work closely with the community it fills my cup.  While I know I can help and support the community with the free content on our channel, I also know I can make a bigger difference with the closer interaction of a small group or one on one.

No, you don’t NEED another course!  We know many of you have been following us for years. If you’re still stuck in indecision and “not enoughness,” this offering is the catalyst for change.  YOU are worth the time, effort, and investment. If you feel like you resonate with this message, and the teachings of The Mindful Movement, join the group today.

We are Here to Guide you to Uncover Your Values

Sara Raymond

I invite you to learn more about our 6-week program, Move and Meditate: Self Care You Deserve for a Lifetime. Our next group is forming now.

In this next-level offering, you’ll gain access to:

  • Weekly group coaching calls so you can address and troubleshoot your barriers, ask questions about movement sequences or meditation prompts, and get customized support in your journey.
  • A like-minded community with similar goals so you can lean in and make connections with other friendly people on the movement and meditation path.
  • Self-study online education course, so you can deepen your knowledge on your own time.
  • One full year of the Membership Oasis, packed with weekly fresh and ad-free content targeted to what’s most relevant for you right now

I look forward to the opportunity to serve you at a deeper level, and to help you usher in more of the goodness you’ve experienced in our time together so far.

I hope to see you in the group program.  Let me know how I can support you.

With love and gratitude,

Sara

The Mindful Movement

About the author, Sara

Sara is the founder of The Mindful Movement and the owner of Coreworks Fitness, a Pilates and Yoga studio in MD. Sara is also a Pilates and CoreAligh Master instructor with Balanced Body.

Sara is passionate about helping others grow and live mindful, fulfilled lives. She helps others move better, feel better, live with a deep awareness, gratitude and their whole heart. She strives to inspire others to live authentically and passionately in love and abundance.

13 Comments

  1. Renie Shugg on 04/28/2021 at 12:04 PM

    Dearest Sarah, I was getting ready to put on one of your meditations before getting close to sleep time after an exhausting day. Opened up my pad to your post. I felt it deeply and could relate on so many levels, have felt those emotions and also felt even failings on my part towards certain situations that I have encountered. However, I can say that maybe we may not need another course, or another something. But that is that because we unknowingly avoid the stillness in case of ‘what may surface’. Who knows, yet I must say I look at opening up to new ways of remembering our true essence and therefore allowing a more contented peaceful internal life amidst the often chaotic external changes we are all experiencing at the moment is for applying a discipline of LOVE to myself. So do what you do Sara, you’re so good at it. Your meditations and posts have helped me through a really difficult and huge transition in my life whilst also recovering from a major surgery & I am so grateful. Blessings. I cannot afford anything at the moment so having access to meditations is wonderful. Good luck with new venture, have no doubt of your worth and just feel everything and rise.🙋‍♀️🙏💜

  2. Dee on 04/28/2021 at 12:43 PM

    Thank You Sara for always being… YOU ⚘…..

    Your work is so very valuable, and to so many of your followers (I know it’s been so very valuable on so many levels for me since my discovery of the MM).

    Your openness, honesty and willingness to share your thoughts , doubts , knowledge etc, is deeply appreciated .

    As you teach us in your meditation… I am enough…remember , You also are enough 🤗…. your work is some of the most honest, down to earth, accessible and comforting I’ve had the pleasure to discover.

    You, along with Les, are doing important work in, and for, this crazy world we find ourselves experiencing.

    Rest and recoup when you need …. create wonderful courses when you feel the time is right , because it will always be right for the person who resonates with your teachings.

    Thank you for your letter to the community , as mentioned previously, your openness is so appreciated ⚘

    Namaste
    Dee 🙇‍♀️

    • Sara Raymond on 04/28/2021 at 1:53 PM

      Thank you for your kind words and support.

      • Pat Larsen on 09/05/2022 at 11:12 AM

        The comment made to you …was a teacher for me as well.
        I read through your personal response and saw myself.

        I also had considered your invitation to participate in the program you are offering.

        For me it’s simply “ timing “. Yet also asking of myself, “ do I need another course at this time ?” My answer was
        “ no, not right now.” But thank you for your offer.

        It’s not because of your failing to ignite a spark within me.
        Or my unwillingness to dig deeper within myself. However, I will sit with that possibility when I meditate with your guidance this morning.

        I am also in the throws of planning a specialized program for those students I work with. The responses have been less than overwhelming.
        I have learned that since the events of these past three years have so greatly impacted all aspects of our human lives, it’s better to not add any further
        Requirements that could be emotionally overwhelming.

        If not now then perhaps at a another time…has been my response.

        It’s all “ pre-written “ on the stars.
        Sometimes we forget that.

        Best wishes
        Pat

  3. Cindy Gilchrist on 04/28/2021 at 1:09 PM

    I am interested in your course Sara, but not sure about cost. Please send information. I have been listening to your mindful movement meditations and they are really helping me towards a calm and peaceful life, which is all I really want and need. Thank you

    • Sara Raymond on 04/28/2021 at 1:52 PM

      Hi Cindy,
      The investment for the course with weekly group coaching meetings is $299 (including a $99 annual membership to our platform). You can learn more and register here: https://www.themindfulmovementcourses.com/offer-page
      Let me know if you have any further questions.

      • Edwin on 05/01/2021 at 2:05 PM

        Hi Dear Sara. I took the time to read your letter. And from my perspective I truly believe that your mission for teaching mindfulness is absolutely worth. One thing I learned is that you can’t always satisfy people needs or concerns. Therefore I hope you always continue with your mission. Because what maybe is not interesting for one can be very interesting to others. DO NOT LET NEGATIVE COMMENTS BE IN YOUR WAY… thank you for all your knowledge

  4. Katie on 04/28/2021 at 2:05 PM

    I posted this to your FB group but wanted to add here in case you don’t see it…

    Hi Sara,

    Your post really resonates with me. Two weeks ago I reported somebody Etsy who was selling my website’s best-selling design. She not only filed a “counterclaim” essentially claiming ownership of my work… but also posted to a huge Facebook group, including screenshots of our private Etsy chats. Her post painted herself as the victim. What nobody knew reading her post, is she’s actually a serial intellectual property thief.

    A customer kindly alerted me to the post, and it was brutal reading. Over 400 comments trashing me and my business. People went to my website and Facebook page, shared screenshots, and encouraged each other to steal more of my work, trademark my name, and copyright my work. Just to f**k with me. One woman even left my first bad Facebook review in 5 years of business (I got it removed).

    I had major surgery 6 weeks ago and this is NOT what I needed to be dealing with. I’m also just about to move my 125+ product website to a different e-commerce platform, which is a huge job, only me doing it. Sleepless nights, tears, anxiety, talking to lawyers, hiring a lawyer, reporting her to Etsy, dealing with Facebook trying to get the post removed… and it’s still going, every day some new consequence of the weird and vicious actions of a wounded child-woman.

    What’s so interesting to me reading your post here, is your call to reflect on where my hurt is coming from. When sh*t went down, it didn’t occur to me to pause and reflect upon this. I’ve been in “fight or flight” mode for 2 weeks reacting, not responding.

    I have 45,000 hard-earned Facebook fans, and like you it’s just me behind the scenes with no help. I’m a superwoman! And yet, I also felt so much guilt and shame around MY response, even though I am the aggrieved party. It made me feel “not good enough” so much that I seriously thought about closing my business! I started it 5-years ago to make myself laugh through a very serious illness. It’s slowly grown and actually become a thing. And I still battle the illness that occasionally puts me in a wheelchair.

    So your sharing this post couldn’t be more timely for me. Now you’ve made me stop and think… where is this reaction coming from? Why… when I’m clearly the one being treated badly… do I feel like I’ve done something wrong? Thanks for helping me start that conversation with myself.

    I could end with platitudes about not letting online comments get you down, but I KNOW how hard it hits, and hurts. It’s good as you say, to learn to stop and take a minute to observe the reaction and figure out where it’s coming from.

    Let me share something another designer wrote to reassure me – “You’re a lion. Don’t worry about some alley cat trying to steal your scraps”.

    • Mary on 04/28/2021 at 4:08 PM

      Just this morning I thought to send you a thank you note for the meditation titled: New Beginnings/Habit Change. I have been listening to it almost every day for weeks now, and each time I do there is a new nugget. It has been a game changer for me, and I am deeply grateful. The negative comment proves a troubled soul wrote it – no reflection of you, your efforts, or your (immeasurable) value to those of us who take the time to mindfully pay attention. Thank you for creating content in a way that is presented as only you can! Thank you for sharing your vulnerability. Thank you for teaching FOCUS – that is excellent, and new to me. To that point, I am focused on physical nutrition with a professional until June. I will pay more attention to be aware of your next offering. Know that the number of us who appreciate and are grateful is far grater than the number of those who will never “get it.” The grace is yours, our Friend. 🙏

  5. Jen Pickens on 05/02/2021 at 4:06 PM

    You rock! Thank you a million times for spreading light.

  6. Nancy Jean on 05/04/2021 at 9:46 PM

    Like you I am working on a project apart from my YouTube stuff and my readings. My 72nd birthday was Sunday and I decided to declare a week off to celebrate what I could do and do it well. No one can continue to give without relief and some of my followers wanted to know why I was developing a new thing. I do it because I need to and when it is done they will understand. Work on the projects your soul is taking you to. It will benefit everyone for especially you for meeting new challenges.

  7. Cecilia B on 06/10/2021 at 3:16 AM

    I read your letter, and we certainly don’t need another course when we don’t know what we are looking for because it makes us overwhelmed and more confused. Probably that’s what the person who wrote was feeling. I have been watching your YouTube channels for a short time and let me tell you, I’m feeling so much better, I listen to your meditations every day before I go to bed and I’m starting the 21 days practice meditation. Know that your work is extremely valuable and that is helping people like me. When the money allows I will get your course because I want to have the proximity to dig deeper. Thank you so much for all you do.
    With gratitude

  8. Pieter on 07/24/2021 at 1:03 PM

    Dear Sara. I have found that good courses and content is available through several people, with good intentions. However, I also found that what I tend to lack is knowing how to actually proceed with a teaching past my own obstructions and doubts. It is the honest self-reflective content of creators who feel confident and strong enough to publish something of their vulnerability and own struggles that inspires me and can be the missing link. The aforementioned is however less readily available. So; thank you. For providing us with that part also. All to help us grow and benefit. Thank you for all your work and intentions.

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Whether this is your first time practicing meditation, or you have joined the journey with me to deepen or reignite your practice, I am grateful you are here now.

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